I added the "!" to make it read like it's more fun, did it work?

What we think is the problem:

Our girls don't listen to us.

That young girl who comes home from a long day at school, where she's spent those hours surrounded by other young people with their various moods and hormones, under the hum of harsh florescent lighting, loud bells ringing, crowded hallways and lunchrooms...

Somehow, somewhere, we got the idea that our child's social development was going to look like the steady climb on the left.

Your daughter's friendship issues aren't a sign of social failure. They're a sign of her social development in progress.